The 11 Biggest Lies That Are Taught To You That Hinder Your Success.

What would you say in response to the question “what are the world’s biggest lies”? You will be able to enjoy the remainder of your life if you put in the effort and study well during this one year. I suppose all of the students have finally had enough of this falsehood and seen through it. Starting in tenth grade, it will be played incessantly:

Thus, take pleasure in every second of your life while you advance in your profession.

“Someone or something caused a hole in my life” in my view, the biggest untruth in the world. Whether done so intentionally or not, voids are always filled. People will take on different roles to make room for new ones.

If one person in your life departs, another will inevitably step in to fill their shoes.

We Live In a World Full of Myths; What Are The Most Bigggest Lies?

No matter what, you must love and respect your family members; this is one of the greatest lies. Despite their best efforts to humiliate, intimidate, abuse, and beat you until you’re blue in the face. In any case, you should adore them.

You still consider them “family.” It’s not true. Do not feel obligated to. And you can’t call them family. Loving, protective, and nurturing people are what we call family.

Refuse to accept mediocrity. Never compromise your values; doing so will lead you to the one you truly deserve. You are deserving of the finest!

Well, I’d want to pop some people’s bubbles with some harsh realities. Why? Because in all the major American cities I’ve lived in, I’ve witnessed this plot twist more times than I can count.

“Look at what you have to offer first, before you draw up your long list of expectations, let alone demands,” is something I like to encourage men and women alike when they tell me about the high expectations they have of possible mates.

• Having a secure work is a sign of success in life.
• One ought to tie the knot at a specific age.
• Just because someone is older than you doesn’t mean you shouldn’t listen to them.
• No job offers will be considered if you do not possess a degree.
• Following instructions is important.
• Whether you are attractive or ugly is determined by a few specific qualities.
• Chasing after your fantasies is naive and impractical.
• It is not easy to earn money.
• Weakness manifests itself in tears.
• Someone is born with an innate sense of self-assurance.

Experiencing Low Self-Esteem? 

The 11 Biggest Lies

Some of it might be painful.

Unlearning these things took me years.

The sooner you see through their deceit and start living your life on your own terms, though, the better off you will be.

If there’s one thing I’ve learnt from my experiences, it’s the importance of thinking for yourself and having the guts to stand up for what you believe in, even if it means going against the mainstream.

I have faith it will cause you to reconsider your position, regardless of your opinion.

All right, we’ll leave.

Biggest Lies No1. Following Our Instructions Will Make Us Like You.

That job is yours. Attend that institution. Buy that vehicle. Invest in that home.

Once you’ve jumped through all those hoops, we’ll accept you.

That is not true.

Some group, be it your community, your family, your culture, etc., will always look for flaws in you. Still, they will find fault. Some people will always tell you that you’re not good enough.

I assure you that no matter what you do in response to the critics’ advice, they will find another reason to be critical of you.

• It is highly improbable that you will be victorious in this game.
• Plus, there are those people who will always despise you—even after only one encounter. No amount of effort on your part will appease the naysayers and hypersensitives among us.
• However, to be completely honest, these individuals could care less about you.
• Not only do they not give a hoot about you, but they will likely cease to like you the moment you begin to outperform them.
• Stop wasting your time and energy attempting to please other people; you will never succeed.

Follow your heart, be honest, and let things work out the way they will.

Broken Relationships With Siblings Can Be Mended At Any Time

Lies No 2. You Hold Unique Value.

Oh no. Another biggest lies in our lives;

Sure, you are “special” indeed… exactly like the remaining eight billion humans on our planet.

I think that the teaching that we are all “special,” “unique,” and “important” is a major contributor to many of my culture’s ills.

As a result, they carry around the huge self-confidence and inflated ego that resulted from their inaction throughout life.

• However, we are no different from everybody else.
• The truth is that if I am unique, then everyone is unique.
• Conversely, if “everyone’s special,” then no one is exceptional.
• It’s not important to be “great,” “remarkable,” “amazing,” “better than 99% of others,” etc.
• All you have to do is live your life in accordance with your beliefs and the things that bring you meaning.

 Lies No 3. Nothing Will Make You Happier Than Obtaining X, Y, And Z.

Money. Meet the one who holds your heart. Something flashy.

Put an end to chasing for a fleeting sense of happiness; you’ll never find it.

If you’re unhappy when you’re single, it’s likely that you won’t be happy in a relationship either.

Many people in this world are so terrified of being alone that they will settle for any relationship.

If you pin your happiness on amassing wealth, you’ll be disappointed because as soon as you’re “rich,” you’ll squander it.

• Welcome the adventure.Embrace and accept the current moment and relish in it.
• Realising that joy is all around you is more important than being complacent.
• This shouldn’t be put off any longer.
• In the end, you won’t let your guard down while you’re content, will you?
• If anything, you’ll get more done as you’ll be more invested in what you’re doing.

 Lies No 4. If You Perform Well in Class, You Will Achieve Your Goals.

Wait a minute.

To be considered “good” in school, one must essentially adhere to the following rules: do not speak out or cause a stir; read the book, memorise factoids, and do as instructed.

Good luck if your knowledge exceeds that of your teacher. (I hope your teacher is really kind and understanding.)

No matter if it’s a public or private school, a middle school or a university, there is a lot of red tape.

Additionally, remember:

• I can guarantee you that your grades will drop and that they will write “uncooperative” comments on your report card if you express your beliefs, regardless of whether you are right or wrong.
• I don’t think you should blow off your education and ruin your future opportunities.
• What I mean is that there needs to be a distinction between “being good in school” and “being good in life.”
• In general, the abilities that matter most in real life are the ones that allow you to learn new things fast, adjust to new situations, act boldly, and keep going even when things go tough.

These concepts cannot be acquired by traditional classroom education.

The topic of isosceles triangles is instead covered.

You Are Wrong: The Art Of Self-Awareness

 Lies No 5. Invest Wisely.

Are you saying that we shouldn’t save money? WHAT?

Be not foolish.

You should try to save money.

It is preferable to invest capital.

“Saving all your money” guarantees that you will never amass wealth unless your income is really high and your spending are extremely low.

When you factor in inflation, the interest you earn from your bank may not be enough to cover your expenses.

Master the art of financial investment. I know this is going to sound like a stretch, but I’m telling you: educate yourself on the ins and outs of fixed-income products, real estate, equities, and more.

The word “diversify” sums it up nicely.

If you want to diversify your investments, don’t keep 99.9 percent of your money in savings.

 Lies No 6. Attract Women, Men, and All Sorts of Other Creatures by Doing X, Y, and Z.

Is there anything you can do to boost your attractiveness? Of course.

Becoming physically fit. Appropriate attire. Preparing for an event. Exuding an air of magnetic appeal. Improving my skills in talking.

Under no circumstances.

On the other hand, some things will always be used against you, regardless of your efforts.

You need to take it in stride and go on.

Consider this unfortunate reality, for instance:

Nothing a heterosexual Asian male in the US can do to match the dating success of any other ethnicity, everything else being equal.

Not if you’re short, either. (My world is yours if you mix the two.)

Many research have shown this to be true.

• I think it’s unjust.
• The true question, in my opinion, is, “Who cares?”
• Accepting it, moving on, and concentrating on what was within my power were all necessary steps in my life.
• On the other hand, if you don’t, you’ll end up blaming your lack of “X” level competence when, in fact, you’re limited due to systemic issues.
• (It is ironic that the individuals who insist on never dating you are frequently the ones who advise you on your every move.)
• People may still reject you no matter how kind you are or how much you try to win them over. Why?
• Not everyone wants the best things in life.
• Put this behind you. Pay attention to your aspirations and the person you wish to become.
• The rest is not important. Don’t be so hard on yourself if you fall short of expectations. Let the numbers speak for themselves.

It would be more beneficial to channel that energy into improving yourself and discovering a compatible companion.

A bit more about that later.

 Lies No 7. Any Obstacle in Your Path May be Surmounted.

• That is not true. There is no way to escape your surroundings.
• If the work environment is poisonous, no amount of “trying” will help.
• When the odds are stacked against you, no amount of “trying” will bring you victory.
• No amount of “trying” can transform a small village into a bustling metropolis.
• It is imperative that you depart immediately.
• Give up the illusion that you can force yourself to persevere in the face of adversity.
• Sure, put in the time and effort, but also make sure you’re in the proper setting for it to pay off.
• You will achieve achievement if you adhere to the given guidelines.
• Success is certain if you just follow the instructions, according to many books and courses.
• It’s going to be great for your business. You are destined to acquire substantial money.
• A lot of individuals try and fail even when they do everything by the book.
• Even though they try, many people manage to succeed.
• Unless, of course, their achievements are unique.
• Survivorship prejudice is prevalent.
• Life is like this all the time.
• Thus, the problem?
• Not a single thing.

The fact that nothing guarantees success was simply left out. Nothing can ensure that everything will go according to plan, no matter how many Medium posts you read daily.

I don’t mind; I think it’s all about making things easier for yourself.

Have fun and play by the rules, but know that no matter how well you prepare, there will be occasions when you fail miserably.

Just because you’re dealing with imperfection doesn’t imply you should stop.

Do everything by the book, but don’t kid yourself into thinking anything is feasible.

Then you’ll be better able to handle setbacks. More self-assurance will help you stand up and give it another go.

Think win-win: The 7 Practices of Highly Effective Individuals.

 Lies No 8. I Learned the Most by Reading.

Experience is the greatest teacher.

Nothing beats really doing it, no matter how many books you read about it.

You will never really master the craft of writing unless you put your knowledge into practice by publishing articles for an audience to peruse.

If you want to learn how to play football, reading books isn’t going to cut it; you have to get out there and run.

• You won’t have learned anything unless you experience it yourself, in a real-life setting.
• But if you were to subject yourself to a great deal of experience rather than reading any books, you would likely still acquire the knowledge necessary for success.
• I have a deep admiration for reading and literature, to be clear.
• There is a wealth of knowledge, and picking the correct book can spare you a lot of time and energy.
• A book, however, cannot stand in for really doing something.
• Far too many individuals get sucked in by that.

Stay away from their ways. For sure, pick up a book. But after that, put that book down and put your new knowledge to use right away. Next, do it again.

Most Parents Don’t Know Chronic Absenteeism, But They Say It’s a Problem

 Lies No 9. Just be Yourself.

When they are at a loss for words, this is the counsel they offer you.

This leads them to utter useless things just because they think they sound nice.

If you’re going through a tough time in life, “being yourself” is terrible advise. (If you stick to who you are, you’ll only end up with more of the same difficulties.)

Remember that being authentic is the key to your success.

Instead, just be yourself. Find out the exact steps you need to do to reach your destination, and then just do it.

• Keep improving yourself.
• We will attend to that.
• When you’re going through tough times, there are people in charge, groups, agencies, etc., who are intended to lend you a hand.
• Thus, you inform them of your issue.
• They promise to handle it.
• This might occur.
• However, this is not always the case.
• You repeat it once more.
• “We’ll see to it,” they assure once more.
• This might occur.
• However, this is not always the case.
• I don’t see my point.

 Lies No 10. Figure Out How to Deal With Life’s Challenges on Your Own.

Yes, certainly, make use of the resources at your disposal—support, customer service, HR, BBB, etc.

However, there are instances when you simply must act alone.

I am not advocating vigilantism or any other risky behaviour.

You can’t depend on other people if you need to get things done, that’s what I’m saying.

 Lies No 11. Find Out What to do When Trouble Arises.

Find out how to politely approach the person that is annoying you.

Given that no one else will provide protection for you, it is imperative that you take on the responsibility of defending yourself.

I won’t pretend it’s easy, but it’s definitely something you should work on.

Being an entrepreneur for ten years taught me, among other things, that a lot of people can’t be trusted.

I would be richer than Scrooge McDuck, for instance, if I had €1 for every time someone failed to return my email or phone call when they stated they would.

They mean well, yet they would back out of a commitment if it meant their lives were on the line.

Skip the waiting and get going. Move forward. Start moving things along. Get a contingency plan ready.

You should also spread your bets. Find out how they deal with small promises. Buying some coffee. Arranging a gathering. Working on a little project. Resolving an elementary inquiry.

Then you’ll know whether they’re up to the challenge and if you should proceed or withdraw.

Doing so will allow you to live your life according to your own standards, rather than those of other people.

Hope everything works out.

As a reader, I am incredibly grateful to you. If you want to read my next posts, which combine ideas from psychology, social issues, education, business, biographies, women, leadership, tourism, climate change, and many more, you should follow me. You may sign up for my email list if you want to receive notifications whenever I post a new article.